Why is he afraid of marriage

I want to get to married I really do but some of the women I've met want the wrong kind of man. You can't want a thug and then call me crying to tell me how he doing you wrong. I want a woman who knows she is my woman and we are both on the same page. We both need to know that marriage is in our future so that I'm not sitting there looking crazy and getting my feelings hurt. Until I met a woman who is 100% committed to building something real then I am not getting married.

Marriage, love, and commitment are beautiful to me. There’s nothing like being committed to someone and you both make the decision every day to chose that person. I am not afraid of marriage but I am afraid of being hurt. I understand that hurt, disappointment, and heartbreak are part of the process because the other side of all of that negativity is the most beautiful thing in the world which is love.Marriage is not a "File-Save" situation, in which the person you meet stays that same way until he or she dies. No way! You will change and your spouse will change. Your spouse will change their hair style, their clothing style, their taste in music, their taste in foods, their taste in cologne and perfume, their taste in entertainment, their level of intimacy, and their taste in intimacy. You cannot change him/her. Love them for who they are and not who you want them to be. Learning this early in a relationship will save a lot of headaches, frustration, and arguments.

Bro I just feel like I don't want to get settled down and miss out on what's going on in the world. I want to have fun. I like to go to the club and I don't want to be told that I can't go because I am married. Bro I see married couples walking round looking mad like they asking themselves why they got married. That won't be me. I will get married when I find the right one.

I just see soooooooo many married people who just seem miserable and like they hate each other. But those people are still together. That is terrible to me and I don't want to be like that. I don't want to stay married just because we have kids and then we end up being roommates. That's stupid. 

I just can't do it. Somewhere deep in the back of my brain I think I want to get married but reality won't let me. Just like @frosty said there are too many people who are miserable together. I don't want to be roommates in a relationship. I want to have fun so I won't be getting married.

To me, the value of state sanctioned marriage, put shortly is "the business side of a relationship." I am 100% looking for a life partner, and I'm 100% willing to get married by law if that's what she values. I just don't care if she is "officially" my wife or not according the government. I am after the contents of a relationship more than the title. And in my opinion, no matter what anyone says, what any faith says, one's tax bracket or anything else. Whether or not folks are legally married, does not constitute a quality union or a lifetime of allyship. If it is not a relationship where we work together like family then it is no different than a momentary convenience. I want a relationship of equality and equal effort, I don't want to be apart of any union that requires one to be "better" than the other. Yeah I'd love to get married. I hope I find my life partner later afternoon lol. I'm not interested in a life without valuable companionship.